I'm Shabnam Rakhiba!
My Journey with Chronic Pain
Let me guess:
Like myself, you are a Queen battling chronic illness/pain/disability.
You are wondering whether it’s worth it working with me and whether we will gel.
I get you.
I understand your struggles and your daily challenges.
I understand the tears you try to hide behind smiles.
I understand the sense of loss; loss of control over your body and life and loss of your old lively self.
I understand these and much more because I have struggled with these for more than a decade.
My story is not unique and countless women have gone through the same.
I was a healthy and ambitious young person until the day I woke up with sudden intractable pain.
I spent the next 11 years in the vicious cycle of hope and heartbreak where I relentlessly
attempted to understand why I was in pain and attempted to cure this physical suffering.
Indeed, the emotional pain was as overwhelming as the relentless physical pain as I watched my body refusing to co-operate with me.
It seemed my body had developed a mind of its own and refused to obey me! I’m sure you are intimately familiar with this feeling.
Nowadays, I manage my condition with a mixture of mindfulness, hypnosis, EFT,
physiotherapy, homeopathy and medication as needed.
After 11 years of tests, scans and doctor’s appointments, I was diagnosed with endometriosis and fibromyalgia.
I still live with chronic pain which affects my mobility. However, my emotional and physical suffering has lessened.
I learned to work with my body and respect its limits and accept the uncomfortable feelings and struggles accompanying health conditions.
I learned to be creative, innovative and adapt to the unpredictable demands of chronic illness/pain.
I learned to establish boundaries and insist on being given the space for growth and self-care.
I learned to live unapologetically.
And SO CAN YOU!
My Values & Vision
I value honesty, loyalty & fairness, kindness and lifelong-learning.
I do not have any grand vision.
Mine is the same vision that every woman with chronic illness/pain and disability has:
a day when every woman will be treated with compassion, sensitivity and fairness irrespective of how able-bodied and functional she is or whether or not she can carry children,
a day when she will not fear being left behind by her loved ones,
a day when discrimination and prejudice against her will disappear,
a day when she will not have to hide her health challenges and disability,
This day is very far off.
I work towards my vision by empowering one woman at a time.
Let's connect if my values & vision resonate with you.
More about me
I can’t bake.
I love post-apocalyptic and horror movies and TV series; Hunger Games, The Handmaid’s Tale, Walking Dead- you get the drift?
I am a book lover. Favourite authors: Stephen King, Sarah J. Maas, Khalid Hosseini.
I am unashamedly eccentric.
I am a happy introvert.
I have an aversion to spiders, hypocrites and abusive people.
I love gardening and call my plants ‘my babies’. I also talk to them daily. Thankfully, they don't answer back.
I cringe when I see perfect selfies captioned ‘Live your best life’. I believe in living a purposeful and meaningful life and valuing the little things that makes one’s life worthy of living.
My Professional Background
Ba (Hons) Psychology and Accredited Masters in Psychology.
CPCAB (Counselling & Psychotherapy Central Awarding Body) Qualified Life Coach.
Rapid Trauma Intervention Practitioner.
Advanced & accredited Practitioner of the ACT model (British Psychological Society).
Graduate member of the British Psychological Society (BPS) and it’s Special Group in Coaching Psychology. The BPS is the association regulating Psychology Practitioners in the UK.
Member of the Association of Contextual Behavioural Science (ACBS). The ACBS is a worldwide learning and research community for practitioners of the ACT model, RFT (Relational Frame Theory) and Contextual Behavioural Science.